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By Rico Handjaja

We all worry. About money. About work. About health. About people we love. It’s human. It’s normal. But sometimes, worry takes over. It drains us. It keeps us up at night. It makes our hearts race. And before we know it, we’re stuck in our heads, spinning in circles.

But here’s the truth: worry doesn’t fix anything. It only makes us feel worse.
 And your energy? It’s way too precious to waste.

What if, instead of feeding worry, you used that same energy to do something good for yourself?

What if you used it to believe… to create… to learn… to think clearly… and to grow?

Let’s talk about how.

What Worry Really Does

Worry is sneaky. It shows up when you’re tired, when things feel uncertain, or when you’re waiting for answers.

It says things like:

• “What if everything goes wrong?”
• “What if I can’t fix this?”
• “What if I’m not good enough?”

And suddenly, instead of taking action or finding peace, your brain is working overtime… but going nowhere.

Worry doesn’t protect you. It doesn’t prepare you.
 It just wears you out.

And the longer you sit in that space, the more your body and mind feel stuck.

You only have so much energy in a day. And how you use it matters.

What if you could turn that energy into something that helps you feel stronger, calmer, and more in control?

You can. Let’s look at how.

1. Use Your Energy to Believe

Believing is the first spark.

It means holding on to hope. Even when you don’t have all the answers.

It means saying, “Things can change.”
 “I can grow from this.”
 “I am still learning, and that’s okay.”

Belief isn’t pretending everything is perfect. It’s choosing to trust that you’ll find your way, even if today feels messy.

Start with one small truth you do believe.
 Maybe it’s:

• “I’ve made it through hard times before.”
• “I’m doing the best I can.”
• “I’m allowed to grow at my own pace.”

That’s belief. And it matters more than you know.

2. Use Your Energy to Create

Creating helps take you out of your head and into the moment.

When you create, you shift from thinking to doing. You turn feelings into something real. Something you can see, feel, or touch.

It could be:

• Drawing or painting
• Cooking a meal
• Writing in a journal
• Taking photos
• Making music
• Even planting a flower

You don’t have to be “good” at it. You just have to start.

Creation helps you release what’s been building up inside. It gives your emotions somewhere to go. And sometimes, it gives your heart a little bit of peace.

3. Use Your Energy to Learn

When you’re stuck in fear or doubt, learning can feel like a breath of fresh air.

Learning something new (even something small) helps you feel stronger and more capable.

You could learn:

• A new way to manage stress
• How to set better boundaries
• How to cook a new recipe
• How to build something, fix something, or understand something that’s been bothering you

Learning shifts your focus. It reminds you that you’re still growing. And that there are always new paths to try.

Even reading this blog is learning. And that’s a step forward.

4. Use Your Energy to Think (Not Overthink)

Thinking and overthinking are not the same.

Overthinking is when you spin the same thoughts over and over.
 Thinking is when you stop, breathe, and calmly reflect.

Try asking yourself:

• “What’s in my control right now?”
• “What do I actually need today?”
• “Is this thought helping me or hurting me?”

You don’t need all the answers. Just ask better questions.

Even writing your thoughts down can help. It clears the noise in your head and lets you look at your problems with more kindness and clarity.

5. Use Your Energy to Grow

Every challenge is an invitation to grow.

You don’t have to change everything overnight. Growth can be soft. Slow. Quiet.

It can look like:

• Saying “no” when something doesn’t feel right
• Being kind to yourself on a bad day
• Trying again after failing
• Apologizing, forgiving, or letting go
• Choosing rest without guilt

Every time you do something a little braver, a little wiser, a little kinder. You grow.

And no one else has to see it. It still counts.

A Gentle Reminder for You

If worry has been weighing on you, pause for a moment. Put your hand on your heart. Take one slow breath.

And say this out loud, if it helps:

“I am allowed to protect my energy.”
 “I choose to use it to build, not break.”

You’re not falling behind. You’re not failing. You’re simply learning how to be kind to yourself while carrying things that are heavy.

Worry will still try to visit. That’s normal. But now, you have other places to send your energy. Better places.

Places that give something back to you.

Try This Today

Here’s a small practice to shift your energy gently:

1. Take 3 deep breaths. In through the nose, out through the mouth.
2. Write down 1 thing you’re worried about.
3. Now, write 1 thing you can do instead of worrying. It can be small, even brushing your hair or texting a friend.
4. Do that one thing. Then notice how you feel after.

You don’t need to fix your whole life today.

You just need to start somewhere.

Final Thought

You are not your worries. You are not your fears.
 You are so much more than that.

You are capable. You are growing. And you are allowed to use your energy in ways that lift you up, not tear you down.

So today, and tomorrow, and the days after that, choose to believe, create, learn, think, and grow.

You’re worth it.