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By Rico Handjaja

Have you ever felt like life’s just… stuck?

Like no matter how hard you try, nothing’s clicking. You try different things, work harder, think more, but it still feels like you’re pushing a locked door that just won’t budge.

Here’s something I want you to sit with for a moment:

“When you’re ready to walk your true path, the universe opens every door meant for you.”

Let’s unpack that. Slowly, gently!

So… What’s a “True Path” Anyway?

Okay, imagine you’re wearing someone else’s shoes. They’re too tight. You can walk in them, but it hurts. That’s what life feels like when you’re not being you. You’re trying to follow a path that maybe looks good on paper or makes other people happy, but deep inside, it just doesn’t feel right.

Your true path is like slipping into your favorite old sneakers. It fits. It’s not always perfect. Sometimes you trip, sure, but it feels real. It feels like you.

Psychologist Carl Jung once said,

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” (Jung, 1953)

It’s not about being rich, famous, or impressing anyone. It’s about waking up and thinking, “Okay. This is hard, but I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else.”

Why the Universe Waits Until You’re Ready

You might be wondering: Why don’t things work out when I’m trying so hard?

Well, maybe because you’re trying to open the wrong doors.

The universe or God, life, whatever you believe in isn’t ignoring you. It’s just waiting for you to be honest with yourself. The second you say, “I want to live in a way that feels right to my soul,” something starts to shift.

Psychologists Peter Gollwitzer and Paschal Sheeran found that having clear intentions actually rewires your brain to focus, decide, and act in ways that pull opportunities toward you (Gollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006). It’s not magic. It’s you finally being in sync with your real self.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy… but once you commit, all sorts of things begin to occur to help you.” – W.H. Murray (1951)

That’s when doors you didn’t even see before start creaking open. Slowly, then all at once.

How Do You Know You’re On the Right Path?

This part isn’t always crystal clear, but there are signs, like little whispers from your soul.

• You feel lighter. Not always happy, but at peace.
• You stop needing to pretend or explain yourself.
• You get tired, SURE! But not soul-tired.
• You start saying “no” without guilt.
• You notice small things bringing you joy again.

It’s not that life becomes easy. It just starts to make sense. That deep tug in your chest? That’s your inner compass finally pointing north.

Carl Rogers, another psychologist, called it congruence, when what you believe, feel, and do all line up (Rogers, 1961). That’s when things start to flow. And when you flow, life meets you halfway.

What If You’re Scared? What If You’re Not “Ready”?

Look, no one’s ever really ready. Not 100%. Not even close.

Fear doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path. It often means you’re getting close to something that matters. Big feelings show up right before big breakthroughs. That nervous feeling in your stomach? It’s not danger. It’s growth knocking.

“Feel the fear and do it anyway.” – Susan Jeffers (1987)

You don’t need a giant leap. Just a toe in the water. Start small:

• Say yes to something you secretly love.
• Say no to something that drains you.
• Write down the stuff you always daydream about.
• Be honest! Evenif it’s just in your journal.

One little honest moment can unlock a whole new direction.

And Then… the Doors Start Opening

Here’s the coolest part.

When you stop forcing what’s not meant for you and start choosing what feels true. The universe notices. You’ll hear a song lyric that speaks to you. Someone will mention exactly what you needed to hear. A random post online will hit you right in the heart.

That’s alignment. That’s flow. That’s the quiet but powerful way life says, “Yes. This is it.”

Psychologists Ryan & Deci (2000) studied happiness and found something important: people who chase meaningful goals, not just status or money, are more fulfilled, more grounded, and more alive.

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist (1988)

FAQs

Q: What if I don’t know what my path is yet?

That’s okay. You’re not late. Just start by noticing what feels good, and what doesn’t. Trust your curiosity. Let it lead you.

Q: What if I disappoint people by changing directions?

People might be confused at first. That’s normal. But the ones who truly love you will want you to be happy, not just convenient.

Q: Is it too late for me?

Never. The path doesn’t expire. And guess what? Every twist, every detour has been teaching you something. You’re not behind. You’re just getting clear.

Let’s Not Call This a Conclusion…

Let’s call it a beginning. A soft invitation to stop waiting for signs and start becoming your own.

If something in you whispered yes while reading this. Listen!! That’s your truth trying to get your attention. And when you lean into it, when you take even the tiniest brave step toward who you really are, life responds.

The universe doesn’t open all doors. Just the ones meant for you. And that’s more than enough.

So… what’s your next tiny step?